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The Five Languages of Social Media Engagement: secrets to online communities


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This is just a light brief post mimicking the title from the book “The Five Love Languages: secrets to love that lasts” to capture some (not too deep) observations of different ways people can engage on social media:

1. The “like” or “favorite” – often meant as encouragement, or to just acknowledge something has been read. Can also be used dismissively (e.g. Pressing like without having read the actual post)

2. The retweet, or the facebook share: often shows you really liked something the other person posted and have chosen to spread the word to others. One of the highest forms of flattery.

3. The reply or comment: this shows you really are engaging with the ideas another person has written on their blog, twitter or facebook.

4. The linking within your own stuff: this is acknowledgment – this is like when you link to another person’s blog within your own, a way of acknowledging the value of their ideas and helping others benefit from those ideas as well, and make connections between your ideas and theirs

5. The Private Message: this shows you are interested in the individual and are willing to have side conversations with them beyond the public social media sites

Five is such an arbitrary (but neat) number. Have I missed any other important means of social media engagement in the narrow focus of doing just five? Please let me know 🙂

note: the below as added 2 minutes after publishing:

6. The “mention/tag”: which is when you post something and tag someone on it. This means you know what might interest this person and have kept their interests in mind when writing the posting on fb or twitter. It is mostly helpful in drawing people’s attention to things beneficial for them.. But can, of course, be annoying if used incorrectly or excessively!


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