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All Apologies

Estimated reading time: 0 minutes, 38 seconds

Kids are so good at making us realize how utterly clueless we are about parenting and also how completely hypocritical our social rules are

My daughter the other day was doing little naughty things like throwing stuff from the kitchen counter to the floor. I told her i was upset and she said sorry.

A few mins later she looks at me, mischief in her eyes, showing me she might just do one more naughty thing. She asks, “will you get upset if i do this?” and i say “yes” and she goes “but i’ll apologize”!

It reminded me of all the empty insincere apologies i ever made

With sincere apologies it reminded me of that Nirvana song

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  1. Children as Experts in Parental Behaviors:

    “What Motivates Experts?
    What motivates experts to persist for thousands of hours of deliberate practice, enduring frequent failure? Unfortunately, there is very little research on the motivation of experts, but there are two motivational constructs the seem intuitively applicable: self-efficacy and intrinsic motivation.

    Self-efficacy is the belief that one is capable of performing a specific task. According to Bandura (1997) the most robust source of self-efficacy is accumulated past experiences of success with a particular task. Most experts are differentiated from novices and mere skilled individuals by their ability to perform extremely well in evaluative contexts like competitions, academic tests or public presentations. So while experts often fail during deliberate practice, they experience a great deal of success in performance venues. These experiences of success lead experts to cultivate a strong sense of self-efficacy for tasks in their domain.

    Another obvious motivator for experts is their sense of passion for their domain. If experts are willing to practice for thousands of hours, then they probably like what they do…It seems likely that a strong interest in their topic of expertise could spur experts to initiate deliberate practice and persist when they encounter obstacles in their domain.” Pp 61-62

    Bandura, A. (997). Self-efficacy: The exercise of control. New York: W.H. Freeman

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