Maha,
There’s nothing wrong with “vulgar,” except in somebody else’s mind whoever that mysterious other is (a voice in your head that you can choose to shut up–at least, I did!). Rarely do I meet anyone at all these days who isn’t wrestling with some kind of insider/ outsider angst. Fuck that, I say vulgarly. I see you digging deep. Soul deep. Keep on doing that. That’s the only dance in town.