My first response to the people who trouble me with their often unacknowledged position of privilege is to declare them overly involved in the closed environment of their self. Second up is a lack of appreciation for others. Both are a position of declaring defeat by the shortcomings I place on others.
Still… people who cause me hurt MUST have SOME defects because I’m not THAT dis-likable. Nor are they THAT bad. Its obvious where we learn the bad things–its all around us. But how do we unlearn? And why do we make such a big deal when asked to discard habits that hurt others?