Wow, Maha, you are rattling the foundations here! And part of me wants to say “be careful!” in that parental warning tone because while I can’t quite place it yet, I feel some sense of threat. At the same time, I hear you saying, “wait, let’s be more careful and thoughtful and critical when we use these terms.”
So this is my very first gut response. I need to go think more and come back to this. You’ve caught me in a sensitive spot with these questions. So much more at stake than word choice as you illustrate in so many ways. Thank you for this jolt of inquiry.