Thanks so much for this crucial essay and for your nuanced responses. Just a small tweak to your final point — as the parent of a disabled young person who needs significant support, I completely agree with the need for caretakers who have substantial responsibility to have respite, but I also think it’s important for the caretaker to tune in to the reciprocity in their relationship with the person for whom they care, even as that reciprocity might not be truly “equal” — otherwise it’s natural for the caring relationship to become framed as entirely a burden, which I think ultimately risks diminishing the humanity of the person who is receiving care. I think that this connects back to our care for students — I think that tuning in to the care they can reciprocate within their particular place in a power structure can help us faculty perceive the mutuality of care in the classroom.