Thanks for commenting Mark. First time i get a chance to read you in paragraphs (vs tweets) haha

I think you make a good point but you miss something important: you assume the “other” will be able to express themselves in a language that you can understand, whereas this is rarely true. Definitely not for a kid even of your native tongue, more so for a non-native speaker of ur language, and very often, even a fluent speaker of your language (like me) who’s lived experience might be too foreign for you to comprehend even when the words are clear. Dominant cultures are familiar to the non-dominant because of depth and breadth of exposure. The opposite is not necessarily true. I am just saying that “asking” and “telling” are not enough. Ethnographers got it slightly right when they decided to research by immersing themselves in living other people”s lives. But still you cannot truly live someone else’s life from their perspective. You can try to understand and empathize and to recognize that your understanding will always be partial. You can try to give the other a voice, but recognize that whatever they express may not be properly heard or understood. You have made me reflect a lot… Thanks