Belonging on our own terms is hard. We can borrow a pleasant personality and “pass” or determine our own path. I have a meeting on Friday to fix my relationship with my cancer “care givers” who have supposed they can interpret my life without knowing it and run me down for being “damaged” (again their definition). The deal is no advice from them and I’ll finish my treatments. Since there isn’t any other source here of cancer treatment this is risky but their ownership of me WILL stop. We all get to decide how much we are worth.