I enjoyed reading this Maha – maybe because of my distance in time from the messy day to day reality of being a parent. I agree with you about a pragmatic philosophy for parenting and remembering that learning often comes after the event. I read somewhere that the best way to learn parenting is to take two children, raise them to the age of five, then throw them away and start again but there’s a flaw somewhere in that experiment 🙁 Anyway, you story made me think of two of my children who both had significant experience of medical intervention and surgery (they are both fine now). Both reacted with fear of blood tests but one was easier to coax into acceptance, the other fought and screamed. Guess which one had less long term fear of visiting the hospital – yup the second. That was a long term lesson for me.