Maha, Sometimes when I work on machines I hit them or throw the tools I’m using. I totally agree that it does set a bad example by showing how poorly I can contain my reactive rage. Sometimes the anger just erupts without my knowing it was there. That’s more than responding to a shock to the system, it’s a state of maybe being always at the edge of control.
I don’t think anger itself is bad. As a sense it alerts us to the presence of injustice / unfairness when something feels “wrong” or out of balance. It can also be a dangerous tool distorting our reactions for justice into irrationality.
Sometimes when I hurt myself on an object I talk to it. Might appear pointless but it calms me. And after raising two teenaged girls, the idea of reasoning against the impossible no longer defeats me:-)