Been thinking that as a mom… Well obviously we become happy FOR our kids when they are happy for something or achieve something. We also feel pain and heartache (frankly often more than joy).
But I am thinking of something else. About the importance of being happy myself in order to be a good parent for my child. As in, I make efforts to make sure I can make myself happy no matter what, so That I can be in a good frame of mind to be a good parent.
These efforts may look like escape or disconnecting or whatever to others. For me it is how I survive so I can keep smiling for my child. Because children in and of itself is emotional labor. We need to have other outlets for emotional wellbeing of parents.