Agree that we need to be aware of other’s sensitivities when we make comments–and maybe the term “sensitivity” itself is a kind of judgement or dismissal of people’s rightful feelings. Some perceive themselves as silenced or “outside the conversation” or just unqualified to contribute to the group and their sense of precarious position requires us to be gentler than our own confidence of place might make us.
How are we to be honest with each other without also applying at least some of the soft falsehoods of consideration? Our care for each other maybe insists we hear ourselves and judge if are being true to the “needs” of our relationships (as abstract constructions of knowing someone) as compared to the more emotionally referenced direct relationships as in people we are quite helpless to not be entangled with.
Personal relationships aside though, the concern for others hopefully would create a safe place to offer genuine advice that isn’t mistaken as impersonal observation or “correction.” Or maybe we ourselves need to be less reactive to insights others have of us?